FINE ON THE OUTSIDE ISN’T THE SAME AS FINE.
Therapy for Anxiety & Depression
THERAPY IN LOS ANGELES AND ONLINE THROUGHOUT CALIFORNIA
Anxiety and depression don’t always look the way people expect. Sometimes they look like someone who’s getting everything done and still can’t shake the feeling that something is wrong.
Does any of this sound familiar?
You look like you’re functioning just fine to everyone else, but inside you’re struggling with worry, sadness, emptiness, or a persistent feeling that something isn’t right.
You feel stuck in a heaviness that’s difficult to explain. It’s hard to imagine things changing, and sometimes you wonder whether you’ll ever feel like yourself again.
You replay conversations in your head, second-guess what you said, and worry about things that haven’t even happened yet.
A text from a friend sits unanswered for days, not because you don’t care, but because replying feels like too much.
You’re constantly hard on yourself, focusing on what you’ve done wrong, what you haven’t accomplished, or all the ways you think you’re falling short.
Things you used to love now feel like one more item on the to-do list.
There’s usually a reason it feels this way, even if you can’t see it yet.
How I work with anxiety and depression
The goal isn’t to stop having difficult feelings. It’s to stop letting them run your life.
Many people I see for anxiety or depression have already tried to think their way out of it. They know their worries are out of proportion. They can list every reason they should feel fine. But knowing doesn’t make the feeling go away, and that gap can become one more thing to be hard on yourself about.
My approach is primarily psychodynamic and relational, which means we’ll look at how your history and relationships shape what you’re feeling now. That includes the fears and beliefs feeding your anxiety or heaviness, and sometimes the feelings that are harder to face than the anxiety itself.
We’ll also pay attention to your day-to-day life: how you talk to yourself, what you do when hard feelings come up, and where you might be keeping yourself stuck without realizing it. When it helps, I draw on CBT, mindfulness, and other practical tools, so you have ways to get through a hard week, not just understand it.
Part of that work is learning to recognize your inner critic without automatically believing it. People with anxiety and depression are often incredibly hard on themselves, convinced they should be doing more, feeling better, or handling things differently. We’ll work on meeting those thoughts with more compassion, so they don’t keep pulling you back into the same cycles.
In over 15 years of working with people struggling with anxiety and depression, I’ve seen how much can change when you stop fighting yourself.
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Quiet the constant overthinking and worry, so you’re not spending so much energy replaying the past or bracing for what might go wrong.
Have energy left at the end of the day for the people and things you care about.
Feel like reaching out again, and more connected to the people around you.
Ease up on self-criticism and treat yourself with the same understanding you’d offer someone you care about.
Find your way back to the things you enjoy, and to feeling like yourself.